Why do women tend to want to control? Why do men tend to be passive? This is such a destructive and backward structure in marriage, however it is the far more common way for things to function. No wonder we struggle so much with the balance in our marriages. Let's talk about where the desire to control comes from and why it is so destructive. We will also talk about "coping" and why there is no life in just coping.
This week we talked about a lot of things, as usual. But here are the sources for some of the specific things we mentioned.
"The Bible Recap" with Tara-Leigh Cobble. Go to this link to learn more. The Bible Recap
"The Power to Change" by Craig Groeschel. Go to this link to learn more. The Power to Change
Learn more about the movie "The Forge" The Forge Movie
The Quote from CS Lewis.
From a letter to an American woman, 31.7.62
I have a notion that, apart from actual pain, men and women are quite diversely afflicted by illness. To a woman one of the great evils about it is that she can't do things. To a man (or anyway a man like me) the great consolation is the reflection "well, anyway, no-one can now demand that I should do anything." I have often had the fancy that one stage in purgatory might be a great big kitchen in which things are always going wrong - milk boiling over, crockery getting smashed, toast burning, animals stealing. The women have to learn to sit still and mind their own business: the men have to learn to jump up and do something about it. When both sexes have mastered this exercise, they go on to the next.
A clarification written 03.09.62
[this] is simply my lifelong experience - that men are more likely to hand over to others what they ought to do themselves, and women more likely to do themselves what others wish they would leave alone. Hence both sexes must be told "mind your own business" but in two different senses.